Trauma Responses: Thoughts

/Trauma Responses: Thoughts
Trauma Responses: Thoughts2019-01-24T16:21:10+00:00

It can be very hard to stop thinking about the abuse/rape. Trying to understand it can be confusing and can lead you to think things about yourself that aren’t true.

Emotional support can help to understand these thoughts, if you want to talk about trauma reactions you can get in touch on our helpline or e-support.

Through our work supporting survivors we know that some common trauma thoughts people want support with are:

 Blaming yourself

  • I should have…
  • I should not have…

… The person who did that to you made the choices. You are not to blame. Your reactions were normal reactions in an abnormal situation, and you survived.


  • I cannot go on…
  • I’m not coping…

…By being here today you are coping.

Concentration difficulties

  • Sleeplessness
  • Dissociation
  • Confusion
  • Nobody will believe me…

…These are normal reactions when your mind is processing trauma. Things will get easier and more manageable.

Difficulty saying what happened

  • I cannot say that word…
  • Nobody will believe me…

…It’s normal to find talking about rape or abuse scary. Take your time. Say it in your own words, in your own way. It’s never too late too talk to someone.


  • Fear if the abuser is still around
  • Fear of not being believed
  • Cyclical, panicky thoughts

…Abusers are able to abuse because they instill a fear of speaking up in their victim. There are people who believe you and want to support you.

Angry thoughts

  • They should have protected me

…Anger is to be expected after someone betrays your trust or sense of safety. It is healthy, but try and consider who is really to blame.


  • I’m dirty and used
  • Nobody will ever understand me
  • Nobody will ever love me

…You are much more than what someone did to you. You have had to cope with something traumatic, and you are still you.

Feeling different

  • Nobody understands

…Everybody is different. Everything that happens to us has the potential to make us stronger.

Want to talk?

Women and girls

0808 801 0456

Monday & Friday
11.00am – 2.00pm
Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 6.00pm – 8:30pm

Men and boys

0808 801 0464

Monday 11.00am – 2.00pm
Tuesday 6.00pm – 8:30pm

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